First dates are nerve-wracking enough without the added pressure of picking the perfect movie. Choose something too intense, and you'll spend two hours in awkward silence. Go too romantic, and it feels presumptuous. Here's our carefully curated list of first-date films that strike the perfect balance.
1. The Grand Budapest Hotel (2014)
Wes Anderson's whimsical masterpiece is visually stunning and genuinely funny without being crude. It's quirky enough to spark interesting conversation afterward—"Did you notice the symmetry in every shot?"—without requiring a film studies degree to enjoy. The story is engaging but not so complex that you'll lose track while stealing glances at your date.
2. Crazy Rich Asians (2018)
A modern romantic comedy that's actually funny and heartfelt. It has enough drama to keep you engaged, stunning visuals of Singapore, and a feel-good ending that puts everyone in a great mood. Plus, the food scenes will give you plenty to discuss over dinner afterward.
3. Spider-Man: Into the Spider-Verse (2018)
Even if your date isn't into superhero movies, this animated masterpiece transcends the genre. The groundbreaking animation style, incredible soundtrack, and universal themes of self-discovery make it accessible to everyone. It's also not too long at just under two hours.
4. Knives Out (2019)
A clever whodunit that keeps you guessing without being too dark or violent. Daniel Craig's southern accent alone is worth the price of admission. It's the kind of movie you'll both want to discuss immediately after—who did you suspect? When did you figure it out?
5. The Princess Bride (1987)
A classic for a reason. If they haven't seen it, you get to share a beloved film. If they have, you'll bond over favorite quotes. "As you wish" hits different on a first date. It's romantic without being cheesy, funny without trying too hard, and adventurous without being overwhelming.
6. La La Land (2016)
Yes, it's romantic, but it's also a love letter to dreamers and artists. The musical numbers are spectacular, and the bittersweet ending actually makes for great discussion. Just be prepared for one of you to start humming "City of Stars" for the next week.
7. Paddington 2 (2017)
Don't let the "kids movie" label fool you—Paddington 2 has a 99% rating on Rotten Tomatoes for good reason. It's wholesome, genuinely hilarious, and shows you're comfortable enough to enjoy something lighthearted together. Hugh Grant as the villain is *chef's kiss*.
8. About Time (2013)
From the creator of Love Actually comes a time-travel romance that's really about appreciating life's small moments. It's sweet without being saccharine, and the father-son relationship adds emotional depth beyond the romance. Have tissues ready, but in a good way.
9. Hunt for the Wilderpeople (2016)
Taika Waititi's heartwarming adventure comedy about an unlikely duo on the run in New Zealand. It's feel-good cinema at its finest—funny, touching, and beautifully shot. Perfect for showing off your indie film taste without being pretentious about it.
10. Coco (2017)
Pixar's celebration of Mexican culture, family, and following your dreams is emotionally resonant without being manipulative. Yes, you might cry at the end, but so will your date, and shared tears on a first date actually create bonding (science says so). Just blame dust in the theater.
Movies to Avoid on a First Date
A quick note on what NOT to pick: anything with graphic violence (no Tarantino yet), intensely sad films (save Schindler's List for later), overly sexual content (awkward), horror movies (unless you both love them), or anything over 2.5 hours (commitment issues, anyone?).
Can't Decide? Let Us Help
Still torn between options? Use our Movie Roulette feature to randomly select from your shortlist. Sometimes the best decisions are the ones you don't have to make yourself. That's kind of our whole thing here at Decidr.
Remember, the movie is just the backdrop—the real entertainment is getting to know each other. Pick something you're both comfortable with, bring snacks to share, and most importantly, have fun. Good luck out there!